Is Your Lover Selfish In Bed, Or Plain Lazy? Let’s Help You Figure It Out

Selfish in bed or Plain lazy

So, you can't remember the last time you finished when you got intimate with your guy? The sex seems to have become all about him, and you are starting to feel like you're stuck with someone who is selfish, and doesn't care whether he satisfies you or not? You're now starting to get frustrated, and you can sense a big blow up coming? Before you let yourself explode, consider this: maybe, he has just become lazy.

A selfish lover will, of course, only care about his satisfaction. This goes without saying. But, on top of this, he will have no qualms asking for what he wants and not returning the gesture. For example, he may ask you for a massage, and then refuse to give you one. Or, he might ask you to go down on him, but show no intent of doing the same for you. It's all about him, yes, but he makes it pretty clear that he doesn't care about pleasuring you.

On the other hand, with a lazy lover, the sex might become mechanical. It may still feel like he doesn't care about your pleasure, but the fact is that he doesn't want to work. Often, the sex might end when he is done, and he may not offer to help you climax. But, the difference between him and a selfish lover is that if you ask for more, he will give it to you. He doesn't want to put his brain to it, but he will not refuse to satisfy you. Whereas, the selfish lover will find some excuse to not do anything for you.

Selfishness is a personality trait. But, laziness can kick in because of various reasons. If you've been together for some time, maybe the spark is dimming. Or, maybe, he has too much on his plate with work and other responsibilities and sex has become a release for him, rather than a way of connecting with you. Perhaps, there is a medical issue that he is embarrassed to discuss with you. If you haven't been together that long, and none of the other possible reasons make sense, then it is likely that his laziness is a cover for his cluelessness. Maybe he doesn't know how to make you feel good, and doesn't want to come across as callous or inexperienced. So, he waits for you to take the lead.

So, if you want to figure out if your lover is selfish or lazy, ask yourself this: does he say no when you ask him to do something for you, or does he go along with it? Whatever the answer may be, we hope that you now know what to do!